Lots of great comparison threads on this site so you can really figure out what option for each mod is best for you and your budget.
Congrats on the FiST - I had to sell my Tundra (Reg cab short box 4x4 lifted with 35's) and I miss it every day... Sometimes wonder if I should have kept it and sold the 4Runner... Oh well! As long as I can carve corners I'm happy!
Also, sorry about your roads - you might want to look in to a softer shock, there are a couple options now (Bilstein B8's and Koni STR.T's).