Fuel is a solvent and is *very* hard on protective coatings, paints; conducive to corrosion/rust. If it's spilling onto these parts, the problem needs to be licked or the long term consequences will crippling.
My prior car only did that after the fuel filler neck began to dry-rot and leak. There were also evap lines that connected at the top of the filler neck but they were fine. There were also evap lines on top of the tank that were dry-rotting. The fuel pump seal also leaked. This was all over the 20 year old mark though. Towards the end of its "useful" life (rust was threatening structural integrity) I would only fill it to half-a-tank and avoid these issues.
To avoid spill from the nozzle head during removal, I'd pull it out part way while tilting the nozzle downward, wait a second or two, then pull it the rest of the way while twisting and pointing the nozzle upward. If there's still any fuel left in the nozzle, at least it won't be spilling on the paint job.